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Learning to Fly: Words of Inspiration and Growth
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Make Friends With Your Weirdness

Dr. Liz Margoshes styles herself "the ironic therapist," practicing out of an office in the Flatiron district. She says,
"Ironic people often have trouble with the hyper-earnestness of traditional therapists. And they really don't want their slant toward the world analyzed away as a defense. People have the misconception, often, that their peculiar slant on life is causing the problems. And that they'd better give it up or they'll be miserable forever. But look at Harvey Pekar-a miserable-seeming person, right? His miserableness produced terrific comics (that people relate to especially because they identify with his miserableness-isn't art, after all, about communicating truths that are hard to communicate, relate to, and identify with, in interesting and challenging ways?) and gave him a way to connect to people. Should Pekar have tried to get rid of his slant on life? Or do we actually admire him for being who he is?"

But isn't detachment something that gets in the way of love and experiencing life fully?

"Ironic people," says the Brooklyn native, "are not detached. We stand back and observe, but that's our way of being involved! It's the writer's way, the artist's way."

How does the irony affect the therapy? Is the therapy itself ironic?

"No. It's just like a language that I speak, and it's often the language of certain people who can't find a voice in the mainstream community where therapy resides. What's most important is that you feel the therapist has the ability to understand you, to 'get' your experience. And that's why I seem to do well with clients who regard life with a slightly cocked eyebrow.

"People are afraid of being humiliated, of feeling ashamed, so they hide from themselves and others, but by hiding they also hide the best parts of themselves, the odd, exciting, freaky, underground parts-the parts novelists write about and painters paint about. I think
that the ability to have relationships in the world and do interesting work is a matter of feeling good enough about who you are. It's not the contents of your personality that determine how 'OK' you are, it's how you feel about the contents!

"Irony is a particularly useful stance in therapy. Seeing the world with ironic detachment is similar to what the Buddhists tell us to work toward-a giving up of attachments or rigid beliefs that get in the way of directly experiencing the world. Irony is a wonderful tool for examining things. You can stand back and watch yourself feel and think. Gradually you change from believing that there is an 'objective,' immutable 'reality' (e.g., 'I'm shy,' 'Men don't like me,' 'I'll never get out of this dead-end job,' etc.) to seeing how your beliefs and attitudes are really just thoughts-and thoughts can be changed-and that it's actually your own subjectivity that's getting in your way! Once you see that, you start to see that actually there are no limits to what you can think, feel, and do."
-- Elizabeth Zimmer in the Village Voice


A friend of mine has taken huge leaps of faith, and it's inspring to see someone step out of their fears and desire for control to face the unknown that terrifies us in silence.
One step,
 One skip,
   A running leap,

Your wings are spread.
I see you soaring high above.
I smile.
How proud I am of you for not worrying
  about the ground.

You deserve to float on the wind
  And drift nonchalantly with the angels of the sky.
You deserve to flirt with the sun
  And make the moon long for your affection.
You rhythm, words, and mind over matter.
  Are the fuel that will ignite your passion
They will help you determine your direction in life
  And give you strength to persevere.
You mind is spread.
I see it soaring to greater heights.
I smile.
How proud I am of you for being you.
  You'll never fall.

One decision,
  One inspiration,
    One lifetime,
-- by Marc Gunn, Bard 6/30/2003

The Search for Inspiration

"The first factor in the revolution of consciousness is the mystic death of the ego- the death of negative thinking, negative personalities. We must purify the soul of the inner enemies. Every time a defect manifests- envy, gluttony, anger, lust, whatever-that impulse to the heart. Ask, `Do I really need to invoke this?' And then honor the heart." ~ Willaru Huayta, Quechau Nation, Peru

"The strongest oak of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It's the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for existence against the winds and rains and the scorching sun." ~ Napoleon Hill

"Men who are resolved to find a way for themselves will always find opportunities enough; and if they do not find them, they will make them." ~ Samuel Smiles

no one can be told what the spoon is
To Screen Saver
you have to see it for yourself

Learning to Fly

i dream of strength
of special ability
i will myself to rise and i fly
not the slow drifting
as spirit rises from body
but a leap of grace
levitation -- speed -- psychokinesis of self
but in dreams there is danger
they string nets to catch me
they build ceilings and stairways
to slow me for snaring
i am frantic to find you

you are the One

i am the One

will there be One

i need you
-- Neo leaps from rooftop to rooftop!
-- Alice flies back up the rabbithole!
i believe, flex, and fly!
i am always fleeing
but i always escape
the fear drives my heart beat
my dreams become whirlwinds
-- Dorothy's twister sweeps me away!
but i still look for Kansas
i am still seeking you
-- Lestat springs into the cold night sky!
-- Spiderman slings webs and swings above the crowd!

i have found you

i have found me

i am the one who is learning to fly

 ~ (c) 2001, 2003 Catriona Lovett

Wake up and Dream

"All people dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their mind, wake in the morning to find that it was vanity. But the dreamers of the day are dangerous people, for they dream their dreams with open eyes, and make them come true." ~ T.E. Lawrence (AKA Lawrence of Arabia)

It's not enough to have a dream,
Unless you're willing to pursue it.
It's not enough to know what's right,
Unless you're strong enough to do it.
It's not enough to learn the truth,
Unless you also learn to live it.
It's not enough to reach for love,
Unless you care enough to give it.

"We need time to dream, time to remember, and time to reach the infinite. Time to be." ~ Gladys Taber

"Somehow I can't believe that there are any heights that can't be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true. This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarized in four Cs. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable." ~ Walt Disney

"In dreams begins responsibility." ~ William Butler Yeats (1865-1939)

"Think impossible and dreams get discarded, projects get abandoned, and hope for wellness is torpedoed. But let someone yell the words It's possible, and resources we hadn't been aware of come rushing in to assist us in our quest." ~ Greg Anderson

"We grow great by dreams. All big men are dreamers. They see things in the soft haze of a spring day or in the red fire of a long winter's evening. Some of us let these great dreams die, but others nourish and protect them; nurse them through bad days till they bring them to the sunshine and light which comes always to those who sincerely hope that their dreams will come true." ~ Woodrow Wilson (1856 - 1924)

"When I was a child, ladies and gentlemen, I was a dreamer. I read comic books and I was the hero in the comic book. I saw movies and I was the hero in the movie. So every dream that I ever dreamed has come true a hundred times..." ~ Elvis Presley, as part of an acceptance speech given when he was appointed a drug agent by United States President Nixon on December 21, 1970.


"Dive down into your deep eternal self and open yourself gladly to its clear, simple wisdom about what to do." ~ Rob Brezsny

"It matters not what you do, as long as you are the best one doing it." ~ Unknown

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself." ~ Harvey Fierstein

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